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Come over here. Don't tell anyone, but I think he's the one. Yeah, the guy I'm seeing. For real though, but don't tell anyone.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/images\/ce\/98\/imageback.com_ce9806ae17FMLPNPQ31d8d2af7a6.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/images\/ce\/98\/imageback.com_ce9806ae17FMLPNPQ31d8d2af7a6.jpg\" height=\"334\" width=\"500\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003ENow on a serious note, let's get into this week's blog post. The other evening, a person who I think is the bee's knees said something that got me to thinking. I'm paraphrasing of course, but he said something along the lines that he's not into the concept of marriage as there was not guarantee that it would not end in divorce. And to be honest, I can't fault him on this notion.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EIf you look at all the information that is shoved in our faces, from the divorce rate being around 50% and more and more people are embracing the single lifestyle indefinitely, it asks the question why bother get hitched? And part of me is not crazy about the idea either, but there is a but. Let me dissect it for you like it's a frog in a high school lab.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Ch3\u003EWhy I'm Not Looking Forward To Getting Hitched\u003C\/h3\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EIt's a family thing\u003C\/b\u003E. My notion of marriage comes from the examples I saw growing up, i.e. the folks, the parents, those people who raised me. And although I love them to death, my memories of married life are those of misery and fatigue. Misery because things are not going a certain way in the point of view of one parent. Fatigue because they worked hard to provide. But I didn't see much of the lovey lovey stuff that the media tells us that marriage is all about. To me, marriage seemed as though it was something you wanted to get out of and something you regretted.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EThe Wedding.\u003C\/b\u003E My mom, for a short period of time, was in the wedding business and when I saw all that goes into a wedding, I will kindly say \"Thank you, but no thank you.\" In fact, what I will tell anyone is to have a small civil union\/wedding, and after 5 - 10 years, have the elaborate affair for an anniversary or renewing of vows. Nothing much grieves my soul more than seeing people spend money they don't have to feed people they barely know and ending up going home to mommy and daddy because they don't like their spouse. At least stay with the SOB until after you pay off for the wedding, at least then you or them don't have one more thing to bitch and blame about in your union.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EOne more person to monopolize my time.\u003C\/b\u003E There are 24 hours in the day, 4-8 of them are spent sleeping, another 8 or so are at work, let's say 1-3 for hygiene, commuting to work and eating, so you have 5-11 hours to yourself and now a chunk of that has to go to your partner. The only saving grace in the notion that your partner might be good company and the sex is great so it will be time well spent. The down side is your partner is human, just like you, and they have their fair share of good days and bad, emotional turmoil, hopes and fears, and when you are having a shit day, you might be needed to rub their heads because they are having a shit day, too. Then again, this is a great opportunity to get out of your head and be charitable. Do you get the drift? it can go any way and it's up to you which direction it can go.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EAre they really the one.\u003C\/b\u003E I had seen a TED talk some time back that explained why it's better to have less choices because it would make it easier for one to make a choice and feel satisfied with the choice. But when you have 7 Billion plus people on the planet, you have a choice of 3.5B to choose from (7B if you are a swing hitter), how sure are you that you've made the right choice? We are told that we have soul mates, but how do we know that he or she is the one? That's the thing you don't know, that why you do the best with what you got.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003ESo how do I know he's the one?\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/images\/d0\/0e\/imageback.com_d00ee35278CPPBWYR34631bca80b.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/images\/d0\/0e\/imageback.com_d00ee35278CPPBWYR34631bca80b.jpg\" height=\"333\" width=\"500\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003EWell, I really don't know if he is, but I like what we've got going. And it's not the big outlandish things that blockbuster romcom's are made of, it's the little things, like\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003EHim not getting into a hissy fit when I peed his bed. \u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003EAnd I blame the Asian chick in my dream who led me to a bathroom stall for that. When I became aware I was so embarrassed and he just brushed it off like things like that happen and told me to go back to sleep. Now I laugh at the memory, but I was mortified beyond belief.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EHim not giving up on us when I got cold feet.\u003C\/b\u003E I was ready to break up and he came over and we had a good talk, a real talk. My fears were laid to rest and I saw that the relationship was worth exploring, especially as it worked.\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EWe laugh.\u003C\/b\u003E I know it sounds simple but there is something about laughing with someone. Laughing is amazing in itself but when you are laughing with someone, it's like they get you, you are in sync and the experience is just right.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EMy wanting this.\u003C\/b\u003E It may or may not lead to marriage, but for right now it feels right. It's not complicated, I am growing from it, and I don't want to see it end. And if it did, I would still be okay because at least I experienced it and that would be enough.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EMy farting on him. \u003C\/b\u003ELet me explain myself, you ever had a bit of air in your body and you are holding it in. Then you fall asleep, and your body relaxes and before you know it pfft, a puff of air escapes and the person is right behind you. It is only when it's too late that you realise what happened, but you act as though you are sleeping when he\/she rolls onto their back. I'm laughing while I write this like. Sorry about that, babe.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EHim making me better.\u003C\/b\u003E I'm more compassionate, I'm more patient, I let things happen in their own time without me jumping in to try to make them just so. By being with him, I now know how to just listen without offering a solution. I'm better than I was before I knew him. \u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003EWill I Ever Get Married?\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/images.unsplash.com\/photo-1427477321886-abc24e8ce923?ixlib=rb-0.3.5\u0026amp;q=80\u0026amp;fm=jpg\u0026amp;crop=entropy\u0026amp;w=1080\u0026amp;fit=max\u0026amp;s=8663962e3a3a7a9c2284ba6952fa2aba\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"332\" src=\"https:\/\/images.unsplash.com\/photo-1427477321886-abc24e8ce923?ixlib=rb-0.3.5\u0026amp;q=80\u0026amp;fm=jpg\u0026amp;crop=entropy\u0026amp;w=1080\u0026amp;fit=max\u0026amp;s=8663962e3a3a7a9c2284ba6952fa2aba\" width=\"500\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EI don't know. I am in that funny place where the sets don't overlap. One set is what I've seen in my parents' marriage and the other is what the media (romcoms, romance novels, women's magazines) tell me and because they don't overlap, I reside in a space where one would think they would overlap. But I'm trying to adopt the notion that this crazy thing called love is not based on what people show and tell me but on what I feel. I feel a genuine connection with him and I feel that is enough.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EDo I need a fancy wedding or a piece of paper to tell me that is real and tangible? No.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EDo I need to create a sense of security for those around me because without a ring, it doesn't mean that he loves me? No.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EDo I have to validate to the world that this man is my possession and all the other women better get to stepping? No, because if I have to do that it means that I don't trust him. And what is love without trust?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003ETime will tell, but for now, I'm content in knowing that he's the one. \u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EImage credits: \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/3830\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Ei\u003C\/a\u003E, \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/4648\"\u003Eii\u003C\/a\u003E, \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/spiritvisionstudios\"\u003Eiii\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/6934399413515200107\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=6934399413515200107\u0026isPopup=true","title":"2 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/6934399413515200107"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/6934399413515200107"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/12\/why-hes-one.html","title":"Why He's The One"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"thr$total":{"$t":"2"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8580635660349746755.post-3764822906335332015"},"published":{"$t":"2015-06-15T19:40:00.000-04:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2015-06-15T19:40:00.882-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Love"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Music"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Music Videos"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Self Love"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Self Respect"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Music Mondays | How I'm Feeling"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"One of the things I love about music is you can find a song that speaks to how you feel. This is how I'm feeling\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Ciframe allowfullscreen=\"\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"270\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-2U0Ivkn2Ds\" width=\"480\"\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/3764822906335332015\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=3764822906335332015\u0026isPopup=true","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/3764822906335332015"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/3764822906335332015"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/06\/music-mondays-how-im-feeling.html","title":"Music Mondays | How I'm Feeling"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"https:\/\/img.youtube.com\/vi\/-2U0Ivkn2Ds\/default.jpg","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8580635660349746755.post-2749072201856057576"},"published":{"$t":"2014-03-12T07:00:00.000-04:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2014-03-12T07:00:03.588-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Food"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Love"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Random Thoughts"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Relationships"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I Made Him Breakfast"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/magicbulletblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/scrambled-eggs.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/magicbulletblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/scrambled-eggs.jpg\" height=\"424\" width=\"640\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/magicbulletblog.com\/6-second-scrambled-eggs\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: xx-small;\"\u003Esource\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EIt was some years back when I had entered my sexual prime, imagine \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/sexandthecity.wikia.com\/wiki\/Samantha_Jones\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ESamantha\u003C\/a\u003E with a growing \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Zane\/e\/B001IGOXO4\/?_encoding=UTF8\u0026amp;camp=1789\u0026amp;creative=390957\u0026amp;linkCode=ur2\u0026amp;tag=kiorli-20\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Ecollection of Zane novels\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" height=\"1\" src=\"https:\/\/ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com\/e\/ir?t=kiorli-20\u0026amp;l=ur2\u0026amp;o=1\" style=\"border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;\" width=\"1\" \/\u003E. My brother turned to me and said \"Whatever you do, don't get dick-whipped.\" I can't remember the exact date or the context but I remember the warning against being \"dick-whipped\".\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EBack then I figured out that the term was equivalent to being \"pussy-whipped\". Now, according to \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.wiktionary.org\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EWiktionary\u003C\/a\u003E,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cblockquote class=\"tr_bq\"\u003Epussy-whipped adj.\u003Cbr \/\u003E(vulgar slang)\u003Cbr \/\u003ESubmissive to or dominated by one's wife or other female partner, frequently with the connotation that this submissive behaviour is for the prospect of sex.\u003C\/blockquote\u003EAnd according to \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.urbandictionary.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EUrban Dictionary\u003C\/a\u003E,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cblockquote class=\"tr_bq\"\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003Epussy-whipped adj.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003EMaking decisions based on the incentive of sex.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/blockquote\u003EThankfully, I have never experienced dick-whippage. I guess because I protected my heart with maximum security protection. Sure, I've had my fair share of \"Damn! That was great, let's go again!\" but never, \"I will birth your babies and club a baby seal for you, master.\" But what happens when you come across someone who sneaked through your defenses like \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.imdb.com\/title\/tt0117500\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ESean Connery and Nicholas Cage\u003C\/a\u003E?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EWhat happens when the good, good is like Dynomite! and you start spouting pop culture references from multiple decades? Does that mean I'm dick-whipped? Should I be looking out for halos? What actually happened? I made him breakfast.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EHe wasn't expecting breakfast, but I made it. And not the slap, bam, here you go variety, I'm talking about me hip checking Rachel Ray to the side. I made scramble eggs with Cajun seasoning and grated cheese on top. I sliced a loaf of bread AND toasted it, and added a mini orange in the mix. \u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EIf I trusted the tomatoes I had, I would have sliced them up and if I had olive oil and vinegar, I would have mixed them together and drizzle them over the tomatoes. Don't get me started on what I would have done if I had potatoes and bacon.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EI won't lie to you, I do enjoy cooking, more for the process but this was new to me. To want to give food to someone, that nurturing element, that is new. I don't think it freaks me out, but I would like to explore it.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThis might be a genetic throw back to some bygone era where a woman desires to nurture and take care of a man. And where he desires to protect and do handy man things for the woman. Two parts working in tandem. \u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EWhatever the case is, I didn't hate it so it can't be all bad. That reminds me of when Destiny's Child came out with \"\u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=juqws1LIH-I\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ECater 2 U\u003C\/a\u003E\". I remember a British music reporter pointing out that it was a departure from the independent\/survivor Destiny's Child that we all knew at the time. Then again, Beyonce had just hooked up with Jigga and some of that connection bled into her music.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EAt the end of the day, there are certain things we would only do for that special person. Sometimes, you don't even know you are doing them. 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href=\"http:\/\/www.thepaepae.com\/wp-uploads\/2013\/06\/girl-tape-mouth-640.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/www.thepaepae.com\/wp-uploads\/2013\/06\/girl-tape-mouth-640.jpg\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.thepaepae.com\/is-this-what-we-want-internet-take-down-and-indefinite-gagging-orders\/30459\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: xx-small;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;source\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003EImagine being in the arms of someone, their warmth, their scent, them all around you and in the core of your being, you want to say something but you just can't. The “can't” sits on the top of your throat, at the tip of you tongue forbidding three little words from escaping from your lips. This “can't” refuses to delve into the past to find out why it exists. What happens when you want to say “I love you” to someone and you can't?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003EGrowing up, I thought I had life figured out. If you follow what the books, movies, magazines, TV shows, love is pretty straight forward. Boy\/girl meets girl\/boy, sparks fly, a little misunderstanding, a resolution of the misunderstanding, then they have the ideal relationship. Sounds easy, sounds text book, even, but is that really the case when it comes down to the four letter word?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003ENow, at the age of 33 years, 364 days old, I've come to accept that love, the romantic version, is not so cut and dry. I've come to accept that there are many aspects to consider when one thinks about love such as:\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cu\u003E\u003Cb\u003EYour parents:\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/u\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E How did they display love and how that is the foundation of how you view love and how you love another person or if you can love another person.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cu\u003E \u003C\/u\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cu\u003E\u003Cb\u003EThe adults in your life:\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/u\u003E \u003C\/i\u003EThey may not make an impact as great as your parents but they are another reference point in your understanding love.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cu\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cb\u003EThe books you've read:\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/u\u003E Did you read mostly romance novels or stories where love is a non issue.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cu\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cb\u003EThe experiences of your peers:\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/u\u003E A lot of lessons can be learned from the love lives of those in your peer group.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003EIt was only a few weeks ago that I realized that my reference points were quite appalling. When I thought of love, I only had negative, heart breaking references. For every success, I had three failures. And somewhere along the line, on a subconscious level, I don't believe in love. So if I don't believe in it, how can I want it?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003ESure I would see couples in real life and in the media, and wish I had that but as soon as I'm in vicinity of what they have, I shut down, I push away, I become the awkward duckling. So how do I flip the switch? How do I, first, believe in love and, second, learn to love?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003ESimply put:\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EAwareness\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EAcceptance\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EPushing limits\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003ELets delve into them,  \u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cu\u003E\u003Cb\u003EAwareness:\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/u\u003E For a long ass time (which is much longer that a long time), I thought my perception was “normal”. The reality is nothing is normal, there are a lot of things that are common practice, but normal is a myth. At some point in my life, I should have checked in with myself, checked in to see if the life that I was living was the life I wanted to live. In this case, I should have been asking myself two questions\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003EWhat does my love life look like and why does it look like this?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003EWhat do I want my love life to look like?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003EFrom that point, I would have my starting point and my end point, and it would be up to me to build the bridge between. The bridge would be taking different actions from what I've been doing before, thinking and perceiving things differently. As long as I know where I'm going and take action, I will eventually get there.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cu\u003EAcceptance:\u003C\/u\u003E \u003C\/b\u003EIt is so easy to complain, to bemoan, to rant and rave about a situation. It is so easy to focus on the negative, but it doesn't change the situation. You can't undo a landslide, but you can remove the debris. The landslide happened, yes, you can look into what caused it so it won't happen again but it makes no sense sitting on top of the debris lamenting about this and that. \u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003EI know what caused my faulty perception about love and I accept it. When I accept it, I take the power into my hands to make the necessary changes. There is a sense of peace in acceptance and in accepting, I let go of the anger and resentment. In accepting, I can focus on making positive change.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cu\u003EPushing Limits:\u003C\/u\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E I don't think I will be able to spout “I love you's” every time I meet that special someone, but I can build up to saying it once. I can build up to calling on the regular to talk ish. I can build up to more hand holding. It's better I take things slowly and make lasting change than jumping into the deep end and becoming totally uncomfortable.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003EEach time I step out of my comfort zone, I'll revel in it, pat myself on the back. Each time I am comfortable at the old limit, I'll push further. And when it's all said and done, I will be a new person, a person who loves fully and passionately.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003ESo, will this take a month, a year, 5 years? I'm thinking a lifetime, I've spent 30+ years thinking one way about love, it may take me another 30+ to adopt a new way of thinking. But how ever long it takes, I want my relationships to be a hybrid of my parents', my maternal grandmother's and my friend's in NYC relationships. I want them to:\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EBe full of laughter and mischief\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EBe rich with support and respect\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EAlways have mutual attraction\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EBe a great companionship\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EHave a lot of expression of love and gratitude, spoken and otherwise\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003EI might not\u003Cspan style=\"mso-spacerun: yes;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp; \u003C\/span\u003Ebe able to say “I love you” but I will start by saying “I care about you”. It is better than nothing.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003EXOXO\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/7812009001092422636\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=7812009001092422636\u0026isPopup=true","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/7812009001092422636"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/7812009001092422636"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2014\/02\/the-four-letter-word.html","title":"The Four Letter Word"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8580635660349746755.post-6716599814253572678"},"published":{"$t":"2013-01-28T08:28:00.000-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2013-01-28T08:28:00.652-05:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Love"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Random Pics"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"I Heart Mondays"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; 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