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This means that to me Christmas was not only preparing and consuming copious amounts of food or exchanging gifts, it meant the lead up to Christmas Eve as people purchased gifts (and in the latter years personal effects to adorn themselves for the Christmas Eve lime or whatever fete has commandeered that night). One would find us staying up to the wee hours of Christmas morning selling to the last minute shopper who decided at hour 0 to buy their cousin a gift or their sister. But I've changed.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EI don't know if it because I'm older or because I'm over it but the Christmas Eve experience has changed. It feels cheap and relegated to the young who now have an excuse to walk the streets of St. John's with abandon. I see women dressed in various levels of undress and I'm sickened. Don't worry, I've accepted I'm a prude and I don't see the sense of my fellow women wearing tops as dresses.\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EOf late, I'm envying my father who is at home sleeping as we sit around waiting for another customer to pop in and buy magnetic earrings or eyelashes (medium, of course). I feel myself yearning for a tradition where I spend the days leading up to Christmas reading Charles Dickens' The Christmas Carol, as I think of ways to re-write it with a Caribbean twist. Or curling up with lover, as the rain hits the window pane instead of slouching over gift sets that refuse to sell.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EAs a new generation hits the streets of St. John's, I see a lost generation, one that is looking for guidance. But somehow they feel so far gone. I know that the future leaders of our nation are at home in the embrace of their family but it doesn't deny the fact that there are so many who embrace the consumer culture to the degree that they will always be impoverished and at the mercy of their employer and the government, in some cases they are one and the same.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003EWhen did self-respect disappear into the cesspool of the desire to possess something that would make one look \"cool\"?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003EWhen did women want to out do the women of the night?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003EWhen did I stop having faith in the future generation and what they were capable of doing? But did I ever think of what they were capable of doing?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EI am getting old and I am over it. I feel like this part of my life is turning, changing from a youthful green to the decaying red and browns. And for my life to flourish, I feel like it has to be pruned. What will Christmas 2016 bring? I'm not sure yet, but I'm hoping for a different venue, a full night's sleep, a chance for a new beginning, a new tradition.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EImage Credit: \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/nothingwillchangeart.blogspot.nl\/\"\u003Ei\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/6905505844814918361\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=6905505844814918361\u0026isPopup=true","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/6905505844814918361"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/6905505844814918361"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/12\/getting-old-or-just-over-it.html","title":"Getting Old or Just Over It"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/-wL_Ex_iRPQ4\/UNukIEoLRDI\/AAAAAAAACX4\/Z0LUWDrIfVs\/s72-c\/pastpresntfuture.jpg","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8580635660349746755.post-3983317006618446556"},"published":{"$t":"2015-08-09T11:21:00.000-04:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2015-08-09T11:21:14.558-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"drug use"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"getting high"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Life"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"marijuana"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Mary Jane"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Random Thoughts"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Thank You, But No Thank You"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/images\/0f\/cd\/imageback.com_0fcdd229c9ILCDONM387d555515b.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/images\/0f\/cd\/imageback.com_0fcdd229c9ILCDONM387d555515b.jpg\" height=\"510\" width=\"640\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EFor the first time in thirty five years being on this rock hurtling through space, I tried marijuana and I have one thing to say,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003EThank You, But No Thank You.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003ENow there are many reasons why I've never tried Mary Jane, including effective drug use prevention advertisements and that little thing where I can't inhale. In the past, I've tried cigarettes and cigars and I just can't voluntarily inhale smoke. As this is the case, I've tried ingesting the weed, I've eaten:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cb\u003EA Marijuana sugarcake\u003C\/b\u003E - Made me sleepy. I must say I slept well that night;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cb\u003EA Marijuana lollipop\u003C\/b\u003E - God, it tasted so bad that I could take only so much and I felt nothing.\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThen over the weekend, I had Marijuana in cake. As one friend said, it doesn't appear as though it's working until bam, you are high, and trust me, she wasn't whistling Dixie. I think I had 4-5 1 1\/2\" X 1\" cakes and it doesn't help my situation that I was drinking. Ladies and gentlemen, I was shitfaced and I don't want to ever be like that again. My symptoms that night were:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EMajor cotton mouth;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EHyper-awareness - it killed the chatter in my head and left my only perceiving things as they are;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003ESlow motor skills - although I was hyper-aware, I was sluggish;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EA listing to the right - I would be walking and I would veer to the right;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003ENow the above may not all be attributed to the Mary Jane alone but it was a trip traveling home. I can understand why people take it like one would drink wine, but I didn't like losing control. I appreciated the hyper awareness because now I know what it looks like so I can work to get back to that place without drugs, but I like to be able to defend myself, to react quickly and that is impossible while under the influence.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EI also noticed that it brought out a base emotion. I noticed that I became anxious, I was anxious while my sister was driving, I was anxious about how I behaved at the get together, I was anxious about how people perceived me. I was uber anxious and that continued into the next day while at work. I had to calm my anxieties and remind myself to let go of decade old regrets. The drug brought forth my most primal emotion and proved that although I layered on positive points of view, the negative roots are still there and can escape through a crack.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EMy first hallucinogenic experience was a double edge sword, I learned from it and still it was not all fun experiencing it. Would I try it again? No, it just isn't my cup of tea. I would rather read a good book, hang out with cool people, take in a great view or watch a movie than get high. Would I tell others not to try it? No, I think people should experience it so that they can have their own view point on it. I know it would be hard for me to do, but I would have my child try it in my presence so that they go through it in a safe environment. Then when they are proper wasted, I would make the experience awful (muhahaha).\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u0026nbsp;Now a day and a half removed from the experience, I can definitively say, \"Thank you, but no thank you.\" If that is the alleged gateway drug, I won't be indulging in any drugs in the future thus making me even more of a prude. Ain't no thang, I'm a prude till I die. \u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EImage Credit: \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/4703\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EImageBack\u003C\/a\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/3983317006618446556\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=3983317006618446556\u0026isPopup=true","title":"3 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/3983317006618446556"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/3983317006618446556"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/08\/thank-you-but-no-thank-you.html","title":"Thank You, But No Thank You"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"thr$total":{"$t":"3"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8580635660349746755.post-2063669067381589014"},"published":{"$t":"2015-06-21T08:26:00.000-04:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2015-06-21T09:32:14.324-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Fathers Day"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Random Thoughts"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Happy Fathers Day?"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.urwallpapers.com\/download\/8541\/hd_wallpaper_the_hand_of_father_and_child_black_and_white_photo.jpg\/\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/www.urwallpapers.com\/download\/8541\/hd_wallpaper_the_hand_of_father_and_child_black_and_white_photo.jpg\/\" height=\"360\" width=\"640\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EEvery year, this day would roll around, a few weeks after Mothers Day and I would be reminded that men get no love. Let me first explain that I grew up in a retail environment, one that capitalizes on such holidays. There were times when Valentines Day and Mothers Day had almost the same action as Christmas, but even in those times Fathers Day got barely any love.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThis Fathers Day, I took it upon myself to make up gift sets to sell. Out of 12 sets, 2 sold. As we tried to do the same thing we did on Mothers Day to get rid of them (standing at the side of the street and screaming at drivers), I discovered some sad truths:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EPeople did not consider buying their father a gift;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EPeople don't think the fathers they know deserve a gift. As one lady said, her brother is a sperm donor;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EPeople are not willing to shell out money for a gift, a couple people wanted gifts for $5 and $10;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EMen would never give gifts to other men when it comes to something like Fathers Day;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EPeople would not consider giving a gift to a man who is not their father but is a father, be it an uncle, a friend, etc\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EMothers are more in the minds of people than fathers as evidenced by the fact that all the gift baskets we had on Mothers Day sold out while we only sold two for Fathers Day, and those two were the \u003Cu\u003Echeapest\u003C\/u\u003E one.\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003EBut what does this say about us as a society? Now I must admit, for the week, sales have been lackluster and that particular day, St. John's was almost a ghost town. Unlike Mothers Day, no extra people were on the sides of the streets selling gift sets and baskets. In fact I only saw one table with gifts for fathers, but I have a strong feeling the woman went home with the bulk of her stock.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003EBut why no love for the fathers?\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EIs it that we have so many deadbeat dads, sperm donors and the like that people have no desire to give their fathers a gift of appreciation? Is it a matter that we, as a society, don't encourage showing affection to the men, even if they are our fathers? Is it a matter that Mothers have gone through so much that they expect something on that one day set aside for them? Is it a matter that there is a disconnect between fathers and their children?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EPerhaps fathers, in general, have never played a major role in the upbringing of the child. As such their offspring don't have a positive emotional connection with them. Said offspring categorizing their fathers in to one of the following:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EBreadwinner\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EDisciplinarian\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThe man who passes by every now and then\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThe man who gives them sweets and other unimportant things\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThe man who sleeps at their house\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003ENowhere to be found \u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003EThen again, what example do men have on being a good father? How can they be a good father if they never had one? That's why I miss shows like the Cosby Show, where there was a great example of a good father, but now a days who do men or even young boys have as fatherly role models? And what makes a good father?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EAccording to AskMen's article, \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.askmen.com\/money\/body_and_mind_60\/96_better_living.html\" target=\"_blank\"\u003E12 Traits of a Great Father\u003C\/a\u003E, a good father,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003Eis a good disciplinarian\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003Eallows his kids to make mistakes\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003Eis open minded\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003Eteaches his children to appreciate things\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003Eaccepts that his kids aren't exactly like him\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003Espends quality time with his children\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003Eleads by example\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003Eis supportive \u0026amp; loyal\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003Echallenges his kids\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003Eteaches his children lessons\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003Eprotects his family at all costs\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003Eshows unconditional love\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003EThere you have it, with all the information at our finger tips, why aren't there more great fathers? I'm not saying that one can have all the traits, but a few doesn't hurt. And if you haven't noticed, they don't cost a thing.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: small;\"\u003EMaybe I'm being idealistic in believing that men should step up to the plate and be good fathers. Maybe I'm being a capitalist in hoping that children would want to buy their fathers gifts. Maybe I should accept that Fathers day will slip away into obscurity with a few of us still giving the men in our lives a token of our appreciation. Just maybe.\u003Cb\u003E\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E "},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/2063669067381589014\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=2063669067381589014\u0026isPopup=true","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/2063669067381589014"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/2063669067381589014"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/06\/happy-fathers-day.html","title":"Happy Fathers Day?"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8580635660349746755.post-7604405780836474870"},"published":{"$t":"2015-06-14T11:17:00.000-04:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2015-06-14T11:17:18.053-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Angela Hunte"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Antigua"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Carnival Fetes"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Claudette Peters"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Destra Garcia"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Events"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Fadda Fox"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Fete"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Lava International"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Machel Montano"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Random Thoughts"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Rants"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Silva"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Soca"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Soca Music"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"STAGE 2015"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Tian Winters"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"At That STAGE of My Life"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/scontent-iad3-1.xx.fbcdn.net\/hphotos-xpa1\/v\/t1.0-9\/11193230_615120988624203_2550063317941514868_n.jpg?oh=5d41488e6fe0bb2422bf6bb0d3f7fc0c\u0026amp;oe=55E746D9\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"236\" src=\"https:\/\/scontent-iad3-1.xx.fbcdn.net\/hphotos-xpa1\/v\/t1.0-9\/11193230_615120988624203_2550063317941514868_n.jpg?oh=5d41488e6fe0bb2422bf6bb0d3f7fc0c\u0026amp;oe=55E746D9\" width=\"640\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EAbout five hours ago, I walked home from \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/events\/526305917508717\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ESTAGE, The Boss Edition\u003C\/a\u003E. Don't worry, I live 15 minutes away by foot from the venue and I needed the walk to decompress. On the walk, I realized that I am at that stage of my life. The stage where I would rather go to a talk than have my entire body vibrate from the output of huge speakers.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EDon't get me wrong, the show was, well, boss. The performers on the show were amazing. I shall bullet point.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?q=Claudette+Peters\u0026amp;ie=utf-8\u0026amp;oe=utf-8\u0026amp;aq=t\u0026amp;rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official\u0026amp;client=firefox-a\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EClaudette Peters\u003C\/a\u003E wowed the crowd with her songs, performance and daring costume;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?q=Tian+Winters\u0026amp;ie=utf-8\u0026amp;oe=utf-8\u0026amp;aq=t\u0026amp;rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official\u0026amp;client=firefox-a\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ETian Winters\u003C\/a\u003E knows what he is doing on the stage, but honey lose the hat. I couldn't decide if your were aiming for \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?client=firefox-a\u0026amp;hs=5Rq\u0026amp;rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial\u0026amp;biw=1024\u0026amp;bih=655\u0026amp;q=Amish\u0026amp;oq=Amish\u0026amp;gs_l=serp.3...34399.35235.0.35602.5.5.0.0.0.0.0.0..0.0....0...1c.1.64.serp..5.0.0.CcTC9zYE11g\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EAmish\u003C\/a\u003E or \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?client=firefox-a\u0026amp;hs=hmV\u0026amp;rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official\u0026amp;q=Freddy+Krueger\u0026amp;spell=1\u0026amp;sa=X\u0026amp;ved=0CBoQvwUoAGoVChMI4rvoqLWPxgIVx6KACh22lQBe\u0026amp;biw=1024\u0026amp;bih=655\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EFreddy Krueger\u003C\/a\u003E. And when I first saw it, I thought it was a woman's hat. I did like the performance though;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pages\/Olatunji-Yearwood\/44469257686\" target=\"_blank\"\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"fsl\"\u003EOlatunji'\u003C\/span\u003Es\u003C\/a\u003E hit had the people jumping up, but then he stopped too soon and pulled out songs barely anyone knew and people didn't know how to react to them. Next time babe, follow what the other recording artist did and stick to the one song you are known for and move along. Your performance was great but the fact that I didn't know the songs diminished it for me;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI could tell why \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?q=Destra\u0026amp;ie=utf-8\u0026amp;oe=utf-8\u0026amp;aq=t\u0026amp;rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official\u0026amp;client=firefox-a\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EDestra Garcia\u003C\/a\u003E is the Queen of Bachannal, she is a strong performer and her voice is amazing and she is versatile. I would have been satisfied if she was the major act and felt that my money was well spent;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003ESilva, \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?client=firefox-a\u0026amp;hs=zUq\u0026amp;rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial\u0026amp;q=fadda+fox\u0026amp;oq=fadda+fox\u0026amp;gs_l=serp.3..0l10.34075.36433.0.36786.9.8.0.0.0.0.622.622.5-1.1.0....0...1c.1.64.serp..8.1.621.MvIDTtwJlCU\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EFadda Fox\u003C\/a\u003E and \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/AngelaHunteMusic\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EAngela Hunte\u003C\/a\u003E did their songs justice. They have the energy to deliver them and get the crowd moving;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThe in between acts were an excellent distraction from the wait for the band change. They were fun and energetic. What was interesting was a show with a VJ; \u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003ENow I know for sure that \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/machelmontano.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EMachel Montano\u003C\/a\u003E is the Boss. My God! The man has energy, the man has stage presence, the man cuss off the security for killing the vibes and call them in to escort out a man for hitting a woman. My only negative is his set was long but it has to be because the man has so many hit songs. I don't even want to think about how long he has been in the business, but if he sang every song he has ever written and\/or sang, I would still be at the venue. Simply put, the man is a BOSS;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EWhat I loved was the camaraderie between the artists, they seemed so supportive of one another and the positivity there. To me it didn't feel phoney when Machel and Destra were singing together;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThe ladies next to us were so adorable and fun, they added to the experience. \u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003ELoved it...... but I'm not going back. In fact I question if I will be going to any fetes in the near future. Maybe just maybe I'll go again when I somehow forget:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThat people dress more daring than the performer's on the stage. My sister was questioning if some of them were even wearing underwear;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThat when I turn to the left, I see people who probably were born in the millennium. I turn to the right and I see people who vaguely know who \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?q=Shabba+Ranks\u0026amp;ie=utf-8\u0026amp;oe=utf-8\u0026amp;aq=t\u0026amp;rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official\u0026amp;client=firefox-a\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EShabba Ranks\u003C\/a\u003E because they were not born in the 1900's and they only know him through the \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=iXZxipry6kE\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Esong by A$AP Ferg\u003C\/a\u003E. Then a young man begins to dance with me and I'm sure that I am more than twice his age. Ahem. awkward much?\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EHow rude my people can be, Machel Montano is on the stage, people! and you all want to walk somewhere in a tight as crowd. And when they walk past, they don't say or mime \"excuse me\" they just barge through. I wish I could knock some manners in these people's head with a 2 by 4, I'm just saying;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThat even though weed has not been decriminalized, people still puffing away on a long ass spliff up wind from me. I really don't appreciate second hand smoke, thank you very much;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThat they won't reimburse me for the drinks tickets I have, talk about $10 wasted;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThat I hate crowds, especially those that have people who were related to \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?client=firefox-a\u0026amp;hs=LGB\u0026amp;rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial\u0026amp;q=speedy+gonzales\u0026amp;oq=Speedy+Gonza\u0026amp;gs_l=serp.1.0.0l10.348744.352377.0.355594.12.10.0.1.1.1.851.1749.4-2j0j1.3.0....0...1c.1.64.serp..9.3.1357.gjWVxvmgB_w\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ESpeedy Gonzales\u003C\/a\u003E and would be pushing me as I leave;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThat I don't like waking up the next day questioning if my ear drums, liver or legs will ever be the same again;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThat I am not a fan of people looking me over as though they are a buyer at a fashion show. Yes, people, I wore UPP shoes to the show. They were comfortable, they matched my outfit and they were free. In fact my whole outfit, hairstyle and make up cost me nothing and I still looked good, I can't say the same for you all who paid out of your nose. Yes, I'm letting the shade rain.\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/ak-hdl.buzzfed.com\/static\/2014-10\/22\/21\/enhanced\/webdr09\/anigif_enhanced-14223-1414027504-3.gif\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/ak-hdl.buzzfed.com\/static\/2014-10\/22\/21\/enhanced\/webdr09\/anigif_enhanced-14223-1414027504-3.gif\" height=\"189\" width=\"320\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u0026nbsp; \u003Cbr \/\u003ENow don't get me wrong, I'm not saying STAGE is not for the older crowd. In fact I salute those older people who come out to jam, they, too, deserve to have a good time. It's just, I'm not feeling it. For me, it's not what my life is about and I guess it took going to this event for me to see the truth and have it highlighted and underlined.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EIf ever I'm going to a fete, I'm going VIP and seeing how much money VIP is, I'm going no damn where.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003ETo conclude, STAGE was a great onstage experience. I hope they renew their contract with Machel Montano because the man is the real deal, his performance was no different from international performers. In fact, the man is an international performer. I won't be there at the venue, but if they have it at the same venue, I'll be listening from my comfy bed, maybe even with ice cream.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cb\u003ETime to move on with the next stage of my life.\u003C\/b\u003E \u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EPic: \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lavainternational\/timeline\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ELava International FB page\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EGif: \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.buzzfeed.com\/viktortk\/25-types-of-shady-looks-you-should-be-using-m2eg#.ptQb4ERpjR\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EBuzzfeed\u003C\/a\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/7604405780836474870\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=7604405780836474870\u0026isPopup=true","title":"1 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/7604405780836474870"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/7604405780836474870"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/06\/at-that-stage-of-my-life.html","title":"At That STAGE of My Life"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"thr$total":{"$t":"1"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8580635660349746755.post-6182608227845435635"},"published":{"$t":"2015-06-14T08:00:00.000-04:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2015-06-14T08:00:07.476-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Food"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Random Thoughts"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"rethinking food"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"skinny fat"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"slow carb diet"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"weight gain"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"weight loss"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Rethinking The Bulge"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-yDyWKTcijzg\/VW_7VFxWqqI\/AAAAAAAABxs\/JirV97m56cM\/s1600\/blogpost.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"426\" src=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-yDyWKTcijzg\/VW_7VFxWqqI\/AAAAAAAABxs\/JirV97m56cM\/s640\/blogpost.jpg\" width=\"640\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EOver a month or so, I've been noticing my scale tipping towards 140 and daring to go above and I did have a little freak out. Something akin to what I had when I saw it creep dangerously close to 150. Before I continue, let me give you a little perspective through some personal facts,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThroughout high school, I was a steady 128lb;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThroughout college and most of my early twenties, I was a healthy 132lb;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EAfter a major weight gain in my late twenties to early 30's, I aimed to be a healthy 135lb and I achieved it;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EAfter the major economic downturn and my income became nonexistent, stress brought my weight down to 120lb (yes, I was much less than my high school weight and I was boney);\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EEventually, I returned to 135lb and for a while, I thought my weight had settled at that number, I was wrong;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI shrank by an inch, telling the truth here. I was 5'7 1\/2\" and now I am 5'6 1\/2\" so what is the ideal body weight at one height may not be the ideal weight at the other height. It may be negligible but it doesn't hurt to note.\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003ENow some people may poo poo my weight fluctuation thinking that it's not a big deal, that I still look slender as opposed to having some major weight packed on me. The reality is everyone is different, what is acceptable for one person is not acceptable for another and I'm not comfortable with that added weight.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EI existed in that space between where being ultra skinny is touted by the media and where big girls love their curves. I don't want to be skinny but I don't want to be curvy. I used to feel bad that I want to be on the slender, fit side of the equation, that is when I made the decision to do what is right for me.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EMy clothes don't fit the way they used to, my stamina and overall feel of my body is off. My concern is not a matter of a number on the scale, it is a matter of my not wanting to give in to the belief that my weight gain is just another part of life. That I will just accept that it will be a five pounds here then another there and before I know it I'll be struggling with my weight and feeling bad about it. But what am I going to do about it?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Ch3\u003EPutting in the action \u003C\/h3\u003EWell for one, I'm understanding my weight gain. My body didn't all of a sudden gain an extra 5lb, it happened slowly and with my allowing it. When I had returned to my goal weight in my early 30's, a major part of that weight loss was my adopting \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/fourhourworkweek.com\/2007\/04\/06\/how-to-lose-20-lbs-of-fat-in-30-days-without-doing-any-exercise\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ETim Ferris Slow Carb diet\u003C\/a\u003E. For a while, all I ate were vegetables, legumes and protein for dinner and breakfast and in doing that I saw pounds melt away. Even if I ate whatever I wanted during lunch, I was still able to drop the pounds and the dress sizes.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThe reality is I know how to lose the weight and what causes the weight gain, but it is only now that I'm willing to take the appropriate actions. Like many things, I know what to do but the actual implementing of said thing suffers from my procrastination and my not having a solid reason why I should change my way of eating. Then a series of unexpected things happened,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI came across \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.raptitude.com\/2015\/05\/first-world-fear\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Ethis article\u003C\/a\u003E in Raptitude where I learned that we have an honest fear of deprivation;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI listened to \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=MOal49WUEg8\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Ethis video\u003C\/a\u003E in which he gives a few points on why we get fat;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI took an honest look at what I was consuming since the start of the year and saw that I was consuming a lot of sugar and foods that would spike my insulin levels;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EI was walking casually into the weight gain and if I don't act now it's going to continue. But before I jump into what I'm going to do, let me give you my reasons for doing the right thing by my body,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI want to be healthy;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI don't want to be diabetic which does run in my family on my father's side. My grandmother died from complications from it;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI don't want to be \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.google.com\/url?sa=t\u0026amp;rct=j\u0026amp;q=\u0026amp;esrc=s\u0026amp;source=web\u0026amp;cd=1\u0026amp;cad=rja\u0026amp;uact=8\u0026amp;ved=0CB4QFjAA\u0026amp;url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.urbandictionary.com%2Fdefine.php%3Fterm%3Dskinny-fat\u0026amp;ei=quRvVdrKM8SWNriogbAK\u0026amp;usg=AFQjCNGC9enEF0WxHEh89jFUq3-T2nwYWw\u0026amp;sig2=JNtLmH3a9DZhJfbacsbJlQ\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Eskinny fat\u003C\/a\u003E, especially after seeing a Jamie Oliver show when they observed the inside of a fat person as opposed to a healthy person;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI want my clothes to fit again, money is tight and I don't have the time to make a whole new wardrobe;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI see what my parents and grandparents had to go through in terms of depending on medication and I don't want that for me;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EI don't want my consumption of food be a result of status quo, I want it to be a matter of my paying attention to what I put into my body\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThe plan is to cut out the oats and ton of sugar I eat in the morning and eat vegetables and meats for breakfast and dinner. I've done it before so it shouldn't be hard and once I get into the habit, it will be easy to continue. What will be different is I will allow myself a treat every now and then but I won't make it a norm for me to have a chocolate or a packet of biscuit without thinking if I should be eating it and why I'm eating it. I won't say no to them once a month or even twice a month but I shouldn't be eating them everyday.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThis is my body and I've been given just one so it's best I take damn good care of it so it will take care of me as I get older. If you notice with any and all weight loss programs on TV, in the small print they would have a phrase like this\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cblockquote class=\"tr_bq\"\u003E\"in conjunction with exercise and proper nutrition\"\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\u0026nbsp;I figure, why not skip the product or the program and focus on the proper nutrition and some exercise. It's time I lost that 5lb+ of fat and get some lean muscle.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EOne life\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003EOne body\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: x-small;\"\u003Epic source: \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/darkskinnedblackbeauty.tumblr.com\/post\/36303617229\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EDark skinned women are beautiful\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/6182608227845435635\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=6182608227845435635\u0026isPopup=true","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/6182608227845435635"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/6182608227845435635"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/06\/rethinking-bulge.html","title":"Rethinking The Bulge"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-yDyWKTcijzg\/VW_7VFxWqqI\/AAAAAAAABxs\/JirV97m56cM\/s72-c\/blogpost.jpg","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8580635660349746755.post-6206404834496250901"},"published":{"$t":"2015-06-07T09:06:00.000-04:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2015-06-07T09:06:00.175-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Life"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Random Thoughts"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Self Love"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Self Respect"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"The Doctor's Out; Can I Take A Message"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/images\/33\/02\/imageback.com_3302759a1eMKJQAKN33e600b05d9.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/images\/33\/02\/imageback.com_3302759a1eMKJQAKN33e600b05d9.jpg\" height=\"266\" width=\"400\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThe other day I caught up with a series of webisodes called \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.sexless.vhx.tv\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003ESexless\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E and after watching 4 episodes I thought it should be called \u003Ci\u003EThe Young and The Thirsty\u003C\/i\u003E. For those who don't know what Thirsty means, here is a definition from \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.urbandictionary.com\/define.php?term=Thirsty\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EUrban Dictionary\u003C\/a\u003E:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cblockquote class=\"tr_bq\"\u003ETo be thirsty, is to over actively: investigate, long for, covet, in  some occasions intensely staring, or bold displays of desperation. \u003C\/blockquote\u003ETo be honest, I have mixed opinions about this show. On one hand I dislike how it displays this sad version of women who crave male attention at the expense of their dignity and pride. But on the other hand, it shows the thirst so that women can identify it in themselves.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EAs I thought more about the show, I found myself thinking up things I would say to the various women, like\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EIf the man tells you he is seeing other people and is pushing for you to be intimate with him, is he really the man you want to be with?\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EStop being a cock tease, honey. You can't be flirting and giving men the belief that they can get the cookies then tell them the kitchen is closed;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EIf you want to be more than friends, tell the man. If he wants the same, woohoo. If not let it go and move on. In case you didn't know there are other men out there, just open your eyes.\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThen I stopped. I accepted that these women are young, they have yet to learn the facts of life and in this race to find Mr. Right and settle down, they will meet a lot of Mr. Wrongs and Mr. Not Right Nows. I also stopped because I know I did my fair share of stupid ish. Hell, I'm still doing stupid ish and most likely will do more in the future. Who am I to judge?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EI noticed that I am always quick to give people solutions and advice but I rarely take the time to give myself the advice I needed. I was like the carpenter who's house is never finished, the seamstress who wore boring clothing and the doctor whose family always gets sick. It's only when we are instructed to take care of ourselves first then take care of the people we love that we actually do it. Through church and society we are told to take care of everyone before ourselves.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EIt was only recently that a concept became apparent to me,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cblockquote class=\"tr_bq\"\u003EThey say treat others like you would treat yourself, but what if you don't like yourself? What if you treat yourself badly? Won't you treat others badly too?\u003C\/blockquote\u003EI treat myself badly when I don't nurture myself. I treat myself badly when I berate myself for making a mistake. I treat myself badly when I don't stand up for myself, when I didn't give myself the advice I need, when I don't ensure that I am happy. I treat myself badly when I put the needs of others before my own needs which leads to unhappiness and resentment.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EIt's time that this doctor took the time to look after herself because if she doesn't how can she look after someone else?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cb\u003EHow about you? Are you treating yourself badly? How can you treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated? Leave your answers in the comments below.\u003C\/b\u003E \u003Cb\u003EAnd don't forget to share because sharing is caring.\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003Eimg: \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/imageback.com\/4123\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EImageBack\u003C\/a\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/6206404834496250901\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=6206404834496250901\u0026isPopup=true","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/6206404834496250901"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/6206404834496250901"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/06\/the-doctors-out-can-i-take-message.html","title":"The Doctor's Out; Can I Take A Message"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}}]}});