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At the end of the act, the male student told the young lady that he has the number and went on his way (I'm paraphrasing). Now one would think that that meant he would be calling her at a later date to perhaps hang out or even perform another sexual act, the truth is he was going to top up her phone.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003ENow for those who don't know what \"top up\" means,\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003ETop Up: adding call credit to one's prepaid cellular phone plan.\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003Ee.g. he topped up her phone; She got a top up on her phone\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EI wish I could tell you that this is an isolated occurrence, that this rarely happens, but this is a common practice of young women in our society and I would also say in our region. And this is where I think society have failed them and when I say society, I mean everyone, their parents, the government, the churches, the media and even these young women. They really don't know the value of themselves and their bodies.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ch4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EThe Female Body\u003C\/h4\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EThroughout history, the female form had been heralded, from the Venus De Milo to the Mona Lisa to fertility idols, but somewhere along the lines, the female form has been used to sell products and to tell women that they are not enough. If they would use this product or that gizmo or that magic pill, they will be just like this woman who is the epitome of female beauty. But she's not.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EIn fact, female beauty exists in every woman, it's not found in the perfect symmetrical face or the pouting lips or rounded ass. In fact, all those qualities are but trends in the beauty industry. You never know, in the next decade or two, the ideal woman is not going to look like Kim Kardashian (yeah, I went there), she may end of being pale skinned, blue eyed and rail thin. Female beauty is all about loving what you possess physically and being confident.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ch4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EConfidence\u003C\/h4\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EHow can we be confident when everywhere we turn there are heavily made up women, some of which have been digitally enhanced? From billboards to magazines to TV ads to internet ads, we are told that these people are beautiful and because we don't look like them, it is safe to say we are not beautiful. It's simple logic. And it robs us of our confidence.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EI say robs us because there was a time when we were bursting with confidence, when we knew we the bees knees and we acted like that. But somewhere between Kindergarten and High School, some of us lost our shine or it was dulled. Sometimes in losing our confidence we turn to others to validate who we are, we crave people's attention, we want them to like us. If only we knew that the person we need to like us is ourselves.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003ENot only like, but love. When we love ourselves, we would never let anyone devalue our persons, our bodies. Sad to say, no one teaches self-love to children and pre-teens. Sad to say that some of these young women come from households where their mothers are too busy working to provide for the household or doesn't value herself in the end teaching their daughters not to value themselves.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ch4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EThe Solution\u003C\/h4\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EThe solution is not a silver bullet that will instantaneously change the way young women look at themselves. In fact, it would require a campaign approach over a period of time. This would include,\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cul style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cb\u003EPromotional material\u003C\/b\u003E - billboards and posters with catchy graphics and copy speaking to the value of the female form. Perhaps something like, you wouldn't toss a diamond into a pig sty, then why give your body away to a pig? That is pretty weak but you get the drift.\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cb\u003ETelevision and radio ads\u003C\/b\u003E on music stations, again, with catchy phrases.\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cb\u003EIn school talks\u003C\/b\u003E - both targeting the girls and boys. Separate talks as well as integrated talks. Those with the girls would encourage them to hold themselves to a higher standard and those with the boys would focus on equating girls to women in their lives who they value\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Cb\u003ESpeaking on radio and TV talk shows\u003C\/b\u003E - this is more for the wider community so they are aware.\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EAll of this would not be a one time deal but continuous. Have you ever seen Coca-cola take a break from advertising? Their brand awareness is off the charts and wouldn't it be great if we could take that level of making people conscious of the idea that women should be valued.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EUnfortunately, this is all wishful thinking. Or is it? Could a program be created using international funding and even crowd funding? Is it possible that we can change the course of the next generation of women that would carry on beyond our great granddaughters? Is it possible?\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EImage Credit: \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.itsmilkandhoney.com\/am-i-too-young-to-relax-my-hair\/\"\u003Ei\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/5355109821621503553\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=5355109821621503553\u0026isPopup=true","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/5355109821621503553"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/5355109821621503553"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/12\/worth-more-than-top-up.html","title":"Worth More Than A Top Up"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8580635660349746755.post-409112294855104404"},"published":{"$t":"2015-07-05T07:57:00.003-04:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2015-07-05T07:57:36.490-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Becoming Venus"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Believe"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Life"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Venus"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Womanhood"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Becoming Venus - You Ain't S#!@!"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.astrobio.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/14730033038-049d402366-o.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/www.astrobio.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/14730033038-049d402366-o.jpg\" height=\"424\" width=\"640\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003ELet me start off by putting things into perspective. Think about it, you are:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EOne person in a population of over 7 billion people;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EOn a planet in a solar system of 9 planets (yes, Pluto is in my solar system);\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EIn a solar system in a galaxy of billions of solar systems;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EIn a galaxy in a universe that has billions of galaxies.\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003ENow, the question I have to ask you is, why do you think you are so important? In the whole scale of things you are a speck on a speck in a speck in another speck. Think that little creature that is smaller than an ant, that's you.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThen there is the fact that time is continuous, oh sure it seems to slow down when you are having a memorable moment, but it just keeps going like a lazy river. At one point you jumped into that river and then another point you came out. But think about this, do you know anything about your great-great-great-great uncle on your mother's side? Do you know anything about the shepherd in Ireland, the goat herder in Kenya, the opium farmer in Afghanistan who existed in the past or lives during your lifetime? And the reality is they know absolutely nothing about you.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThink about it, the \"famous\" people, the Nelson Mandela's, the Beyonce's, the Hitler's are one in billions. They \"won\" the lottery through their hard work, good or bad, their consistency and single mindedness (but that is another blog post). And guess what? the rest of us didn't \"win\" that lottery, but even if we did, in a hundred years, a thousand years, these individuals will only be remembered by historians, replaced by people doing interesting things in the future. The day will come when the Kardashians will be forgotten.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EThe reality is\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003EYou Ain't Shit!\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003EBut.....\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003EYeah, there is a but. But that gives you permission to do the things people tell you, the things you tell yourself, you can't do because at the end of the day it doesn't matter. So what if you don't write an international bestselling novel, but you do have a novel that is out there and like E. L. James (sigh) your novel can grow a readership that goes galactic. You can develop a program that would have Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg giving you the side eye. You could inspire a generation through your actions instead of inaction to do something more than just survive.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003EDo you really want your short stint on this planet to be about surviving, paying the bills and having the latest gadget? Or do you want to experience the natural high of achieving something that has been pricking the back of your mind? (Why do I sound like a drug dealer?)\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003EAt the end of the day, you and your actions don't matter, so why not do whatever the hell you want to do? Society makes everything so scary and although they push the idea of \"out of the box thinking\", it wants us to live in the box. But life shouldn't be so serious. It's short, it's messy but it can be fun and while you are taking that last breath at the end of it, you should have a silly smile on your face because you know it was an amazing ride. Not for the other billions of people on this earth or the countless life forms on our planet and the universe, but for YOU.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003ESo today, tomorrow and the weeks and the months ahead, choose that dream, that idea, that one thing that gives you a buzz, plan how to execute it and DO IT! (Mind you, not \"Just Do It\" because that makes it sound like it's easy, but DO IT.)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EDO IT because you want it more than anything in the world\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EDO IT because it is what YOU want to do\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EDO IT because it is part of your legacy, what you are leaving to the world\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EDO IT because despite the hardship, when it is done you feel on top of the world\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EDO IT because no one can do it like you\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EDO IT because you deserve it\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EAnd as added motivation, Shia LaBouef:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Ciframe allowfullscreen=\"\" frameborder=\"0\" height=\"315\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/nuHfVn_cfHU\" width=\"560\"\u003E\u003C\/iframe\u003E \u003Cbr \/\u003EBut also DO IT, because in the grander scheme of things it doesn't matter and that should be one weight off your shoulders, one less thing in your way along your path to personal greatness. But never forget,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003EYou Ain't Shit\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003ETo learn more about Becoming Venus, click \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/06\/becoming-venus-introduction.html\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Ehere\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: left;\"\u003EImage Credit: Nasa, \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/primalcarnageforums.com\/archive\/index.php\/t-38-p-5.html\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EPrimal Carnage Forums\u003C\/a\u003E,\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/409112294855104404\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=409112294855104404\u0026isPopup=true","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/409112294855104404"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/409112294855104404"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/07\/becoming-venus-you-aint-s.html","title":"Becoming Venus - You Ain't S#!@!"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"https:\/\/img.youtube.com\/vi\/nuHfVn_cfHU\/default.jpg","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8580635660349746755.post-6265157188739363059"},"published":{"$t":"2015-06-28T09:22:00.001-04:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2015-06-28T10:03:22.245-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Becoming Venus"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Goddess"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Self Love"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Self Respect"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Special"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Unique"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Venus"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Woman"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Womanhood"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Becoming Venus - An Introduction"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/upload.wikimedia.org\/wikipedia\/commons\/8\/86\/Giorgione_-_Sleeping_Venus_-_Google_Art_Project_2.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"394\" src=\"https:\/\/upload.wikimedia.org\/wikipedia\/commons\/8\/86\/Giorgione_-_Sleeping_Venus_-_Google_Art_Project_2.jpg\" width=\"640\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EOf late I've been thinking of doing this series of post called \u003Ci\u003EBecoming Venus\u003C\/i\u003E. In part it is my journey in becoming a woman and in part it is a guide for my daughter (when I have her) on her journey in becoming a woman. Among many things, it will visit the themes of self love and acceptance, finding one's path in life and tapping into one's inner wisdom.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EI know there are many blogs that speak on these themes and I questioned if I should even add my voice to the chorus. Then I figure what the hey, why not? If anything it will clarify my runaway thoughts and give structure to what I would share with my mini me or myself when I was younger.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Ch4\u003EWhy Venus\u003C\/h4\u003EWhenever I think of the goddess Venus, I think of this image,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.ancient.eu\/uploads\/images\/711.jpg?v=1431035676\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/www.ancient.eu\/uploads\/images\/711.jpg?v=1431035676\" height=\"409\" width=\"640\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003EGranted this painting depicted the female body of that time as the ideal, and truth be told it is a true depiction of the female body today, despite what fashion magazines tell us about how we are supposed to look. The reality is we are supposed to have some flesh on our bones, a little pot of a belly and it does not take away from our femininity or our ability to be desirable.\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: justify;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003EThen there is the mythology of Venus, according to \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.ancient.eu\/venus\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EAncient History Encyclopedia\u003C\/a\u003E,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003EIn Roman mythology, Venus was the goddess of love, sex, beauty, and fertility. She was the Roman counterpart to the Greek Aphrodite.  However, Roman Venus had many abilities beyond the Greek Aphrodite; she  was a goddess of victory, fertility, and even prostitution. \u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003EIn this respect, becoming Venus is about cultivating love, embracing one's sexuality, beauty and fertility, as well as being victorious in one's endeavours. All of these is what makes a woman a woman, in my estimation anyway. I am all for equal rights, but not to the degree that we lose what makes us different from the other sex.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003ENow I know that there are those who are not interested in cultivating their feminine wiles, those who accept themselves as they are, and to them, I say \"Do you\". But there are some of us who were just wondering around in the wilderness trying to figure out how to be a woman and\/or trying to develop into the woman we were meant to be. Not a woman sculpted by the outer world but one developed by the inner being.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cul\u003E\u003Cli\u003EA woman who understands and loves her body,\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EA woman who continues to grow and develop mentally and spiritually.\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EA woman who meets and exceeds her expectations for herself\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EA woman who knows her strengths and weaknesses\u003C\/li\u003E\u003Cli\u003EA woman who can nurture and support her significant other and children, ensuring that they are assets to society, not liabilities\u003C\/li\u003E\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003ENow I don't have all the answers, I don't think anyone does. I'm still on my journey, and although in society, I am considered a woman, it does not mean that I am one entirely. There is still room to grow, to become the kind of woman that is not only beautiful, inside and out, but wise and confident. That is my personal aim. That is when I will become Venus.\u0026nbsp; \u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003Epic sources: \u003Ca href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Rokeby_Venus\" target=\"_blank\"\u003E1\u003C\/a\u003E, \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.ancient.eu\/venus\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003E2\u003C\/a\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/feeds\/6265157188739363059\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=8580635660349746755\u0026postID=6265157188739363059\u0026isPopup=true","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/6265157188739363059"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/8580635660349746755\/posts\/default\/6265157188739363059"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/asilomik.blogspot.com\/2015\/06\/becoming-venus-introduction.html","title":"Becoming Venus - An Introduction"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Kimolisa"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/16624029898830661332"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}}]}});